I understand that it frustrates you that this isn't as simple as "you did X, so your punishment is Y", because that would mean you would know what you have to do or how long you have to wait to go home. But look at it this way: this is meant to be a journey of self-discovery, so that you can learn what brings you misery and what brings you genuine joy and you can go back to your life in a way that makes living it more satisfying than it was the first time. And there's not a set amount of time or a set 'punishment' that can make you learn that. You can resist looking into yourself and I think you largely have, because you consider it drinking the Kool-Aid, but you're the one prolonging your time here, in that case.